Obstacles We Have To Over Come

I had a very interesting conversation with a brother last night outside the mosque. We were discussing some problems and issues that had come up recently but are not new issues or problems by any means.

The first case was of a young Muslim couple who were going through a hard time. Looking at this from the outside without any sense of reality, or their reality, you’d say this was all brought on them by themselves. While this summary isn’t far from the truth it does make for an interesting “case study”.

The young man from this couple has no job. Upon closer examination he would seem to be a person with no formal education passed the 5th or 6th grade. His literacy skills are almost not to be spoken of. He has no viable trade and no skills to offer. I’ve seen him at the mosque trying to sell oils to the brothers after the prayer. His wife, who is a meager 17 years-old, is 3 to 4 months pregnant. She’s only been Muslim for about a month. Yeah, the math is starting to get fuzzy. But this is the reality that we live in. This is the reality of everyday people who go on living out their lives in a totally self-desctructive manner.

Now, I’m not writing this to wash someone’s laundry in the streets, so to speak. That is why I’ll leave names out of the article. But here we have a young man, who has no job and doesn’t see that he should have a job. He doesn’t see being economically sound as a means of getting out of his predicament. His only comment is that he needs some Muslims to help him because he can’t trust the kâfir (non-Muslim). “It’s the same old story, a fight for love and glory.” My GOD! we have to put a stop to this ridiculous mode of thinking and being.

What do we do with a situation like this? What do we do to prevent further cases like this? I honestly feel bad for the boy (and the girl, because I’m sure she’s frightened at being pregnant at such a young age. And now she’s “Muslim” but what kind of Islam, if any at all, is she receiving? May God forgive us.) because this is unfortunately all he knows. And further, this is all he’s been taught once he’s entered Islam. He’s been taught to “hate the system” and that means not getting a 9-to-5. Of course, in his case, he is going to be hard off to get a 9-to-5 because of the lack of skills he has. I could go on and on about how we should have programs to educate people (programs do exist in the secular world and I see nothing wrong with them). But if the stance is always, “Don’t get involved with them, akh. They just a bunch of unbelievers. They’re all about the dunya and not about Allah and His Messenger “, we’re not going to have much positive change.

But as Amir said to me the other day, we ain’t gonna do nothin’ without no money! We have to make money, and quite frankly, lots of it. All this talk of education and things people wanna do in terms of da’wah and other things will never see the light of day or carried through without money.

I would like to mention for the sake of stereotypes that form in people’s minds, this couple is a white-American couple. And that while I’m sure there are plenty of other cases just as similar I mention this for the sake of dispelling stereotypes. Wa Allahu ya’lamu ahsan (And God knows best).

3 Comments Obstacles We Have To Over Come

  1. muslim momma

    Having lived in Philly, I saw situations like that so much and its just so sad.

    I know that there were communities trying to do something about it. Well when I was there, UMM had a community development center that I believe was teaching ged and vocational classes, etc. But its that attitude of not wanting to work for kaffir or being so anti-mainstream society. That is really distressing. They dont see what its doing to the next generation. When a kid grows up like that, they associate their hard life with Islam and then when they are adults they leave the deen.

    I guess its the problem we have in our community that seems to be anti-education coupled with the wrong Islamic teachings. There really need to be more khutbahs aimed at the men about how important it is for them to get a skill and provide for their families, this is a major religious obligation yet so many brothers don’t take it seriously. Yet they will go on and on about a womans obligations, but thats whole nuther issue.

  2. Marqas

    Salaamu ‘alaykum, sister. You said, “but they will go on and on about a woman’s obligations, but thats whole ‘nuther issue.” And oh, are you right! I plan to also address this issue in a post as well. There are so many issues I may have to start publishing a magazine! Again, thanks for your comments. It’s good to have a dialog.

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